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First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes c-section, baby, c-section recovery, and then a baby carriage.  In continuation of this past post, I want to go over what to expect during the c-section recovery.

The first night:  It’s rough since you can’t move around a lot, I slept with my head elevated at a 45 degree angle for two weeks after the surgery, since it felt most comfortable for me, I was a bit scared of lying flat with the stitches.  The good thing is you don’t have to get up to pee since the catheter is still in there the first night.  The best thing you can do for yourself is to take the pain medication, as scheduled, around the clock.  Don’t wait for the pain to start…take it every 4 (in my case for Percocet) and 6 (in my case for Ibuprofen) hours.  I did this for 2 weeks, and I was in very little pain as a result. 

The morning after: I slept relatively well; I didn’t have the baby in the room with me since he was in the Special Care Nursery.  They take out the catheter in the morning, and I was really nervous, but for nothing since I didn’t feel anything when it was removed.  Getting out of bed and walking to the bathroom was another story, you don’t realize just how much you use your abdominal muscles for every little movement.  Plant your feet firmly on the ground, and use your leg muscles for sitting up and down.  The nurse was standing nearby, but thankfully, I felt strong enough to do everything myself.   I was afraid it would burn when peeing the first time.  It didn’t.

Moving around: I only used the wheelchair once.  Walking back and forth, even at a snails pace worked best for me.  Sitting and standing is a challenge, but slow and steady is the way to go.  Holding and feeding the baby hurts too, but you are so focused on the baby, you don’t really pay attention to the pain.  Use the band to support abdominal muscles, it really does help, and just having the belt there reassured me that my guts wouldn’t be spilling out.  I didn’t shower until the second day, but the warm water feels really good, I would have done it on the first day had I known.  Make sure to wash the stitches with soap to keep them clean and to use a soft towel to thoroughly dry the area as well. 

Have someone stay with you to help if you can.  You need more help than you think, and it gets pretty lonely in the hospital. I wasn’t lucky enough because hubby had to work and I didn’t have family available nearby. 

Breastfeeding: Since Lil Z was a preemie, he would only suck a little bit and fall asleep.  So I had to pump, pump, pump to get the valuable colostrum to him.  Don’t be discouraged if you pump and nothing comes out.  Stick to it!  It took me over 24 hours before I saw the little droplets of milk coming out.

Bowel movement: Yeah, not a pretty topic, but it takes a couple of days before you can go.  Make sure to eat some fruit, drink some prune juice, have some fiber and it will be smooth sailing.  While we are on the subject, you will get gas that can cause painful cramps, keep moving, and take Simethicone, you’ll be glad you did.

Swollen feet: Day two after surgery my feet had grown to elephant proportions, which threw me for a loop since I didn’t get swollen feet during pregnancy.  It’s all the extra water they pump in you from the IV.  Keep your feet propped up, use 2 to 3 pillows, and be patient, it took me one week to get my feet back to normal.

Holding baby: Just make sure you are comfortable and have lots of pillows and are in a good position.  No better pain therapy than counting the little one’s fingers and toes. 

Laughing:  No one told me this, but you feel your insides are going to rip when you laugh.  I discovered that 9 days after my surgery.  I also realized that I had been so preoccupied with baby, I hadn’t laughed for 9 whole days.  Just press a pillow against your stomach for relief, but do keep laughing, it’s the best medicine after all.

Baby blues:  I had a wicked case of baby blues.  It is normal to feel a rollercoaster of emotions.  Make sure to take deep breaths, that you have someone nearby to talk to, and don’t feel guilty. Embrace all feelings you have during these special weeks following the baby, it’s part of the beauty of motherhood.  However, seek professional help immediately if symptoms worsen.

Pace yourself.  Walk slowly, don’t lift anything too heavy, take breaks and try to rest.  Don’t forget to eat well.  Take it one day at a time, each day feels better than the one before, and though it’s hard to believe at the time, you will be running around in no time.  It took me 6 whole weeks before I felt one hundred percent, but just one look at Lil Z had me feeling I was on cloud nine from day one.


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A short time after the strip turned blue, I sat in the doctor’s office with a dreamy gaze.  I had already googled Lamaze and Bradley, and I was fantasizing about a picture perfect, all natural birth.  I sat on that cloud for about 12 weeks, until I started to read more about the actual delivery.  Then, I sheepishly realized that an ‘all natural’ birth was probably not for me, but I wasn’t discouraged.  I would take the drugs, but I was determined the baby was coming out from the parts that nature intended.  When we found out during the ultrasound that we were having a boy (I couldn’t stand the suspense and needed to know) we also discovered that baby was breech (head up, legs down).  No problemo, there still was enough time to coax the little guy to change positions.  At 32 weeks he was still breech, and then we began to worry.  But babies have been known to change positions as late as 38 weeks I found out, so I kept thinking positive.  Lil Z had other plans because at 34 weeks my water broke and whether we were ready or not, Z-Bear was coming.

 I feel the most difficult and painful part of the C-section is not the surgery at all, but dealing with the initial disappointment of not delivering how you expected to.  But it wears off pretty quickly, because when you see the baby, all is forgotten.  Seeing your baby for the first time, all pink and covered in goo, is indescribable.  And I can’t imagine you feel any less emotional whether you pushed til you were blue in the face or simply waited with your eyes closed, listening for that first wail.  I want to discuss my experience having a C-Section.  The problem is, there is a lot of scary literature out there that basically tells you that C-Section = super dangerous procedure, agonizing, painful recovery, inability for milk to come in, and lots of harm to the baby. Granted, they are all valid points, but I was in a tizzy because of all I had heard, and it really wasn’t that bad. Really. 

 – The spinal:  the needle looks scary, but they numb the skin on your back, and all you feel is a slight sting and then some pressure.  You have to hold still and I was terrified that I would flinch and ‘ruin’ it, but the sting is infinitesimal, so you don’t really flinch.

– The numbing: you know the feeling when your foot falls asleep…that’s how it feels pretty much from the neck down until you don’t feel anything at all.  You are easily able to move your head and hands. In addition to the spinal, you get some pain medicine through the IV, and if you want, something to help with nerves.

– The catheter: you don’t feel that at all (believe it or not, for me, this was the scariest part of the whole procedure).

– Rubbing your belly with some kind of ointment before surgery – slight tingle or nothing at all

– The incision: no pain

– Getting the baby out: pulling sensation and pressure.  But I think the pressure borders a little on pain, but it is very short lived.

– Baby comes out:  You don’t notice anything but the baby.

– Delivery of the placenta: Longest part, feeling goes back and forth between pressure and pain.  Deep breaths help because you know it will be over soon.

–  Stitching you up:  Moderate to uncomfortable stinging and pinching

– Post surgery: nurse dresses you, gives you warm blankets, and wheels you into recovery room. This actually felt rather nice.  I was up and alert, the warm blankets felt great, I was relieved that it was all over, and I felt a euphoric high. 

– PRAY!  There are few times I have felt closer to The Almighty than during the miracle of birth.

Note – Take the anti-itch medicine, you will feel itchy.  Take the anti-nausea medicine, you will feel queasy, and don’t eat anything just yet, not even the Jello in the room they say is ok, because throwing up after being stitched is not a pleasant feeling at all. 

 Honestly, I really have to think back hard to all the steps, because 4 months after the fact, you tend to forget, all that matters is the baby.

 Note:  I will be doing another blog about post C-section recovery…stay tuned!

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I love Lil Z-Bear’s little hiney.  What’s not to love about such a smile-inducing part of him and it fills those adorable onesies perfectly.  I work very hard to keep this cherished part of him clean, dry, and free of the dreaded diaper rash.

 When Lil Z was just a tiny cub, just over a week into this world, I noticed some angry red bumps on his tush while changing his preemie diaper that was still a tad too big on him.  I remember freaking out and crying for over an hour after discovering that the little peanut had developed a diaper rash.  Not because I am prone to such hysterics, but the rash was probably the last straw during a very trying time. 

 I didn’t get to hold Z-Bear in my arms when he was born.  At 34 weeks, my husband and I breathed a collective sigh of relief when we heard him cry for the first time and we knew his lungs were mature enough to breathe on their own. I only caught a glimpse of him before he was whisked away to the Special Care Nursery.  I learned to change his first diaper through the little openings in his incubator.  He was swimming in the newborn outfits that I had so lovingly hand-picked for him.  I could only hold and nurse the little one for less than an hour at a time.  And even when I did hold him, it was a challenge to make sure the leads monitoring his heart and lungs didn’t slip because then it made an awful beep that would send the nurses rushing.  I could only fill one of his cheeks with endless kisses because the other one had a feeding tube attached.  Every day while leaving the hospital, I saw mommies taking their prized little bundles home, while I went home empty handed.  But now that Z-bear is home and thriving, any hardship that we went through was worth it 100 times over.

 After frantically trying several types of diaper creams since his first rash, I have finally settled on one I like.  At the hospital they gave us Triple Paste.  It is very thick and creamy, and feels rather globby when applied.   The texture put me off from the beginning, and it didn’t work, because the rash crept back after using it for two weeks.  So it was out of the running.  Next I tried Bordreaux’s Butt Paste, because who could resist such a name.  It smells amazing, almost made me want to taste it because of its ‘confectionery-y’ smell.  It has a really nice creamy texture without being over-the-top thick like Triple Paste.  However, much as I wanted it to work, it just didn’t and Lil Z’s diaper rash would not go away completely.  So next up was Mustela Stelactive Skin Protectant: it sounded snazzy, with ‘enzyme fighting agents’.  The cream is on the thin side, not great when you have some on your finger and are dealing with a squirming baby.  And it did not work for us, Lil Z’s butt was still red after two weeks. 

 Now we were serious about finding something that would work.  I stood in the diaper cream aisle with a myriad of options and there was the blue box of Desitin Rapid Relief.  Early on, my aunt, who is a nurse and supermom to two beautiful boys, told me to use Desitin.  But somehow, I had always steered away from it, it just seemed too generic.  And the smell seemed a little too strong and a little too cosmetic-y.  But I thought I’d give it a try.  And what do you know, it works great.  It cleared the rash in days, and it hasn’t come back yet.  So consider this mama converted, I would happily recommend it to anyone.  And striving for some ‘no diaper’ time is essential – Lil Z loves it, and his butt is much happier for it.

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